Do you suspect your spouse of cheating? Well, you’re not alone. A lot of spouses cheat on their partners, unfortunately, and a lot of people live secretly with the suspicion that their spouse is one of them. The reason they live with the suspicious might be the same reason you’re living with it. It’s because there is a large amount of guilt associated with confronting the suspected cheater or taking steps towards confirming that the cheating really is happening.
Those feelings are normal, but they shouldn’t be allowed to keep you from the truth or from any steps you’d want the truth to guide you towards. There are many ways in which you can catch them as well. Some involve creatively dissecting their stories and alibis, some involve a bit of snooping and others, believe it not, actually involve hiring a detective to snoop for you. Still, doing any of those things can make you feel just as guilty, and that’s because you are giving in to a breech of trust.
There are many reasons why you should take action though, even if it does feel like the wrong thing to do at the time. If the suspicions have any basis at all, letting the questions linger just won’t do you any good.
The first thing you should come to terms with is that you might actually be wrong. That’s a good thing, right? By taking measures to investigate the concern though you get to alleviate that weight that’s been holding down your trust. While it may feel wrong that you needed to take such measures only to find out that your spouse was honest while you were untrusting, it is certainly a better prospect than living with the unfounded suspicion for any longer than you have to. As a bonus, your trust in your spouse will only be strengthened from that point on.
The alternative is that you find out you were right. When that’s the case you can at least get some form of closure, putting an end to that bitter feeling you’ve been living with. What becomes of things after that is up to you of course. You may choose not to even confront your spouse with the information or you may call a divorce lawyer that very minute. The point is though, this situation also lets you move past the suspicion stage.
In either case, the suspicion is something you shouldn’t have to live with. It will quickly grow into something that does nothing but add to your stress levels and that creates a completely unhealthy lifestyle. It can also lead to you ending up a paranoid mess. Any doctor or psychiatrist will tell you that it’s just no good letting yourself live in that kind of situation.
Just remember that unfounded suspicion can be a dangerous thing. Don’t let little things get the best of you. Then, if you do start investigating, be careful with every step you take. Especially if your spouse really isn’t cheating, you don’t’ want them to catch you in the act of snooping.