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How To Woo A Woman and Win Her Over

How To Woo A Woman and Win Her Over

As more women become independent, successful and enlightened, some men find it difficult to seek the affection or love of the woman they desire. A woman should be wooed and a man should be seduced. Wooing is one of the tasks that a man must do at least once in his lifetime. A man that does not want to do it should not expect to be in a romantic relationship with a woman.

Every man wants to know the secret of attracting women. Most men make it harder than it really is. Men always complain about how complicated women are. The fact is that not all women are complicated. In general, a woman wants to be appreciated and loved for who she is.

Types Of Women

You must first find the right woman before you can attempt to get her. True, there are lots of women out there and finding the right woman may not always be easy, especially in an era when the female gender is typically self-centered and “empowered” to exploit the male population.

You have to look for your possible mate among a list of available women. In sorting out, seek for compatibility instead of physical appearance. The common mistake most men make is overlooking compatibility in favor of the physical appearance of the girl.

If you succeed in getting a lady who is attractive but not compatible with you, your relationship will turn into a disastrous affair after a short while. So if you are searching for a serious relationship, a thorough filtering is a must.

The right women are out there, but they are also becoming scarce in today’s world. So if you can find one of them, act fast because every guy is looking for the right woman. In order to make the right choice before the wooing, you have to tell the difference between the right kind of women and the wrong kind of women.

How to Tell If She Is the Right Kind of Woman?

Miss Charmer

Charmers are usually snapped out of the dating market so fast, because she is an optimistic woman, comfortable with her life, always bubbly and fun to be around. She is an authentic person without any pretense. She is appreciative, considerate and enjoys your company. If you can find one, you have got a real treasure in your hands so do all you can to get her.

Miss Equality

Miss Equality is a true feminist, but not one of those radical man-haters or hypocritical pseudo-feminists. Miss Equality genuinely likes her man and understands that equality means an equitable partnership in a relationship. She is more than willing to shoulder her half of the relationship and dating expenses, just because it is the right thing to do

Miss Best Friend

Miss Best Friend is another joy to be around. She is the kind of woman you are totally in tune with, you like the same things, watch the same TV shows, and enjoy visiting the same places. You can spend five minutes with her and think you have known her for years. She is always on your side, laughs at your jokes, and calls you just to say “hi” because she genuinely misses you. She’s great just to hang with.

Miss Frank

Miss Frank knows how to communicate. With Miss Frank, there are no games, no expectations of men to be mind readers, no behavior-based, female-biased advice. Miss Frank will pick up the phone and ask you out. She will do what she says she will do. She will not say one thing and do just the opposite. Although she may be blunt at times, at least you’ll know where you stand and you’ll never have to spend hours trying to decode contradictory or emotion-based female behavior.

Miss Independent

Miss Independent is a good woman to find if you don’t have a lot of time to invest in a relationship or you’re the type of guy who needs a lot of space. Miss Independent has a real life of her own and is happily going in her own positive direction. She’s the type who wants a man in her life, but she can also do without a man in her life. And she certainly isn’t looking for men to solve all her problems or blame when things don’t go her way.

Miss Faithful

Miss Faithful never cheats on you or constantly be on the lookout for a “better deal.” When you go out, she won’t be thinking of other guys. She will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life. She’s also more apt to stick around if times get tough.

Miss No Pressure

Miss No Pressure has no hidden agenda about forcing you into marriage. She’s happy just to be with you. So you don’t get any, “Where is our relationship going?”, or hint-dropping about the future or window-shopping at the jewelry store. She may want to get married at some point, but she’s in no hurry. She thinks that if it happens, it will just happen naturally.

Miss Secure

Miss Secure accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good traits as well as the bad one. And she feels the same about you. Miss Secure doesn’t need constant attention to shore up a sagging ego, has tons of self-esteem, and is always going in her own positive direction.

Miss Personality

Miss Personality is a great find. She might not be up for a first prize in a beauty contest, but her intelligence, wit and sparkling presence just light up the room, and she draws people like a magnet. Her personality is so charming that it easily overcomes any deficiencies she might have in the looks department, just because she’s so great to be with.

Miss Low Maintenance

Miss Low Maintenance is the most atypical of modern women. She really doesn’t care about how much money you have. She just likes you for who you are and not for what she can take from you. She’s likely to be a true feminist, and will gladly pay her share of the dating expenses. If you can find Miss Low Maintenance, hang on to her for a life-long relationship.

The Wrong Types of Women

Miss Complicated

Miss Complicated is the kind of girl who always gets in with the boys. She is easily attracted to the opposite sex, she is friendly and very passionate but when you ask her out, she stalls and never gives you a direct answer. She asks you to call her, but when you call her she may not answer the phone. She loves to make commitments that she never keeps. She likes to try and play mind games.

Miss What She Wants She Gets

She is flirty, ambitious and spoilt. However, she is very attractive, sexy and exquisite. She uses her beauty to get what she wants. She uses her sex appeal and luscious personality to manipulate, entangle and trap men. She is gorgeous but dangerous. She tempts and she flirts just to get what she wants. She knows how to control men and play on their weaknesses. She can make a man to fall in love with her. She can turn you you into something that you will regret in the end. She’s the controlling type.

Miss Gold Digger

Miss Gold digger does not want to live without the luxury in life. She loves jewelries, designer clothes, expensive cars. She can sleep with a man older than her by 50 years just because he has money. Money is the deciding factor in whom she dates. She is described as “femme fatale” She spends a lot on herself because her looks are her greatest assets.

Miss Fault Finder

She is very hard to please and always finds fault in everything you do. She thinks she is never wrong because she never sees her own mistakes. She constantly reminds you of your mistakes. She can pick a fight with you anywhere to prove she is right. She doesn’t care what people think about her and always want to have the last say.

Miss Unstable

She constantly changes her mind. She is inconsistent, unpredictable and never knows what she wants. She changes her mind constantly and has mood swings. She can be attached to you one moment and detached the next moment. Her emotions are unpredictable.

Miss Know It All

She thinks she knows everything about current events in the world. She will become your “Walking Newspaper”. She is more interested in your achievements than in you. She questions your thoughts to the point of being provocative. She will tell you about your duties, responsibilities and even your rights.

Her single-minded enthusiasm will irritate you. She always pursues intellectual matters. She likes to debate and never stops until everybody will say, “She is smart”. She gets irritated, if someone will question her about something she didn’t know. She’s the nerdy type.

What Do Women Want From Men?

How To Win Over A Girl

Every man has been in this situation at some point in his life. Asking the simple question “what does she want from me?” Every man should be able to answer this question before attempting to woo a woman.

First, understand that there are different types of women with different psychological make-up and expectations in a relationship. But most women look for certain things in a relationship that will ensure happiness and success. A quick look at these points below will give you an insight into a woman’s mind.


A woman needs mental satisfaction, which differs from person to person, physical satisfaction and emotional satisfaction. Remember that women are emotional creatures and they need lots of attention and love.


A woman wants you to be willing to share your life with her and let her to be who she chooses to be. She does not want to be taken for a ride, and she hates to be dumped after a while. She hates men that are “commitment-phobic”.


A woman can’t stand lies and infidelity in a relationship any more than a man does. Honesty and truthfulness from her partner will make her secure and relaxed. A partner who is a cheat will only ruin the relationship.

Sexual Gratification

A woman wants a man who knows how to keep the excitement and the flames of desire burning. She wants a man who is physically compatible


A woman wants to spend time with you. She wants to know that you want to spend time with her and you are thinking about her when you are with her. She wants your undivided attention.

A Knight’s Tale About What A Woman Wants

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question is “What do women really want?” Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by the end of the year. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester.

He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be very high, as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur’s closest friend.

Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

Lancelot, learning of the witch’s proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur’s question.

What a woman really wants, she answered, “is to be in charge of her own life”. Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.

Which would he prefer? Would he prefer a beautiful woman in the day or at night?

Lancelot pondered the predicament. “Would he prefer a beautiful woman to show off to his friends in the day, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?

What would YOU do? Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

The moral of this story is that if you don’t let a woman have her own way, things will start going wrong. Let a woman have her way, and you would be better off.

How To Approach A Woman?

How To Approach A Woman

Start a conversation with her

You probably have a woman in mind that you want to woo, or maybe you don’t but you just bump into a woman and you were instantly attracted to her. The first thing you would want to do is to have a conversation with her.

Most men find it difficult to approach a woman and initiate conversations with them. Initiating a conversation with a woman is a big challenge for most men as some are unsure of how to do this in a respectful manner without sounding rude to the woman. Some can manage to get a conversation going once the ball starts Rolling, and some cannot converse with a woman at all because they are too shy or timid.

Make a good first impression

The most important thing to keep in mind when approaching a woman is that first impressions are very critical and are established within the first few seconds after you introduce yourself. This means that there is no room for error, and you should also know that chatting up a lady is not like in the movies where you can just walk up to a girl and drop some cheesy one liner and then she is in your arms the next day.

Don’t use pickup lines

Don’t use pickup lines because they make the lady feel cheap and they destroy the conversation. It’s hard to think of what to say afterward. Instead, start with innocent small talk, and you will have a base to build an interesting conversation on.

Focus your attention on her and nothing else

Focus all your attention and energy on the girl before you and behave as if nothing else exists in the world. Focus on what the woman needs and not what you need. For instance women are a creature of drama, and will prefer a soap opera to a sport game.

Act confident of yourself

Self-confidence makes you appear more attractive to a woman than you actually are. Women sense and are turned off by insecurity so make sure you look and act confident. Groom, dress and act like a man who is secure with women and with himself.

Don’t jump into a relationship right away

Start by first talking and later making friends with the person you think is special. Most people don’t like to jump straight into a relationship, especially girls. Find a reason to talk to the person. Make sure that they want to talk to you. Just talk about something that keeps the conversation going.

Always be yourself

Be yourself and don’t lie just to get to a special person’s heart. If they find out later when you’re in the middle of a deep relationship or maybe at a time when you really need that person, they will leave for good. Let the person know that you like her and talk to her about something you both have in common.

Tell her you would want to know her better

If you are meeting the woman for the first time, let her know that you admire her and would want to know her better. Introduce yourself and ask her for her name and number. If she is interested in you, she would ask for your number. If she doesn’t, don’t despair she might be the shy type or the type that believes it is a man’s duty to do the chasing.

Ask for a date

Tell her you would call her, but don’t tell when. Make sure you call her as promised and ask her for a date. After the first date or two, if you find out she is not the kind of woman you would want to have a relationship with, let her know that you could be just friends. Don’t toy with her feelings. If you go on a date with a woman more than twice, she may think that you are thinking of a permanent relationship with her.

Let her know the level of friendship you want

If you have known her for long, maybe you have been friends for sometime, and you just realize that you want more than friendship, let her know the level of friendship you want. Don’t nurse your feelings for her in secret or assume that she wants the same thing. She might be romantically involved with somebody already, or she might not want more than friendship with you. Probably she likes you too but may not want to cross the boundary of friendship. Talk with her, tell her how you feel. But act fast before someone beats you to it.

Wooing A Woman

Wooing A Woman

Wooing a woman takes strategic thinking and planning. But strategy and planning have to be within your means. You don’t have to break the bank because you want to woo a woman. If she expects you to break the bank before you can get her or make her happy then she is not worth your time, effort and money. There are many good women out there. Just leave her!

It actually takes little things to make most good women happy. Follow these strategies, and you will never go wrong.


Going out on dates is actually a must in every relationship, whether you have been married for fifty years or just starting. Our focus is really on the man that has just met a woman he is interested in and a man that has just indicated his interest in a woman he has known for some time. Though, a married man can still use any or all of these ideas to woo his wife because the wooing never really stops.

When planning a date, men often think that there are certain things that they should and should not do. Women are individuals though, and what turns one woman on may be a total turn-off for another. By following a few simple guidelines, you can make sure that the wooing goes smoothly and happily for both of you.

If you are on a budget, decide on how much you want to spend on a date and stick to it. Decide on an affordable activity or a place to dine out. You can as well have a picnic in the middle of your living room, with a nice bottle of wine, candles and the music of your choice.

Take her on a planned date to dinner at a place where she has mentioned that she likes or on a surprise date to a good place you have tried and you think she would like. You can invite her over to your place for dinner or Sunday brunch. Make it special by preparing something you think she would like or something she has mentioned that she likes.

Take her to a movie, if she likes movies. If she likes sports you can go and watch a sporting event together. You can go on a drive together to a pleasant spot. Serenade her sometimes by singing a love song outside her window. Go to a coffee house and read poetry to her.

Enjoy the outdoors; picnic in your local park or at your local beach; host a candlelight dinner in your own backyard, patio or terrace using the stars as your backdrop and candles to create intimacy. You can watch the sun go down or the moon come up together. You can also visit a museum or national park together.

It is exciting to try new things, but don’t go too far outside of either of your comfort zones. It doesn’t really matter how much money you spend, or how gallant you are. In the end, it’s a man’s sensitivity and compatibility which really impresses a woman.

Give Her Gifts

Giving gifts is a good way of showing your woman that you appreciate her, because that is what she really wants from you. When buying her gifts put some thought to it, don’t only give her gifts on her birthdays, Valentine’s Day and on other known holidays. Surprise her with a gift from time to time. Buy her things that she likes, it might just be something she mentioned that she likes during the course of your conversation. Something you feel would make her smile.

It is not the cost of the gift that matters to her but the fact that you thought of her and that made you to buy something for her. It can be something as simple as her favorite flower, candy, chocolates or pricey gifts like jewelries. Something you are able to afford.

Take the time to wrap the gift and get a card. This may seem silly as a gift is just as good if it isn’t wrapped. However, giving a wrapped gift with a sentimental card will make her feel even more like a queen to you. You can even give her pampering gifts or gift certificates. Let her know you are thinking of her by giving something special not generic.

Keep Communication Alive

Communication is very important in a relationship. Call her when you promise to call, call her when she does not expect you to call, send her romantic text messages, and if you are a good writer, write romantic poems. Be attentive, learn to listen to her, and don’t always do the talking. Make an effort to sit down across from her after a long day to discuss work, friends and your relationship. Don’t force the topic toward the relationship though.

Concentrate on her. Do not only look at her but focus on her eyes, her body language and her voice to let her know that she has your undivided attention. Notice when she is happy and when she is sad so you can try to make her happy. Let her know at all times that you care for her.

Communication is how we get to know each other. The ability to listen is a great tool, but it’s not the same thing as hearing. If you’re out on a date and getting your lady to open up is like an uphill struggle, ask her about her interests and things you know she is passionate about. She might just need that little push to get going, and if talking about her passion is what does the trick, just make sure you’re all ears. By being an attentive listener, it’ll encourage her to open up and chat away, and she’ll gain your trust. And if you prove that you’re listening, getting her to be quiet might become your next problem.

Be Sensitive To Her Problems

A little bit of generosity goes a long way. This doesn’t necessarily mean monetary generosity. Perhaps your woman has been having financial problems, or perhaps she’s been having difficulty with a relative or her boss. If you lend a compassionate ear to her, she will come away with a good impression of you and the date you had together. Listening is a skill many men have difficulty with, but it is one of the most important skills any man can possess. If her openness makes you feel uncomfortable, just nod and smile. Try to find areas where you have something in common.

Be Chivalrous to Her

Be considerate and always show kindness and courteousness towards her. Open the car door for her, offer to drive her wherever she wants to go. Always pay for the first date. Be punctual when picking her up. Be kind to waiters and cab drivers Women appreciate a man who is respectful, as it says a lot about how he will treat her and whether or not he respects women in general.

Some people may find this practice outdated. Be awesome at anything. If you are smart, show it off; if you are funny, make her laugh; or if you are good at sports, give a demonstration. Let her know how you are different.

Pay Compliments to Her

Compliment her on her intelligence, talents and traits, and always be sincere in your compliments. They don’t not have to be complex. It may even be simply letting her know that you love the way she is dressed or her hair is styled. Tell her things like “You have such beautiful smile”. Say your compliments by looking her straight in the eye as this emphasizes the sincerity of your compliments. Body compliments should be avoided in the initial stage of your interaction but do compliment on her body later.

Final Words

Never compromise your morals. If the person you are interested in is not interested in you, then you should move on. Some people are very polite and you may not realize immediately that they aren’t interested. But it should become apparent over time. In the meantime, take it slowly. Even if you are head over heels, don’t reveal this right away, at least until you are sure she is genuinely interested in you, too.

Usually it is best to reveal one’s feelings step by step, not much more nor much less than the other has revealed. However, people have very different ways of showing that they are or they are not interested in the opposite sex. So do not step it up without talking things through as to where you’re both headed. If you feel like you need time to decide, do not hesitate to say it.

Never be forceful. If you ever pressure her to do something she doesn’t feel comfortable doing, she won’t be shy to say goodbye. Forcing her to do what she doesn’t want to do is rude. Try to continue your normal routine rather than changing your whole life around her. Hopefully she will want to have a relationship with YOU.

The most important thing in dating is to be conscious of your date’s feelings and reactions. If she feels that your chivalry is an attempt to deprive her of her independence. However, if she’s pleased at your holding the door for her, keep up the gallantry.

A lot of guys choose women who are “arm candy” – good-looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. That’s all well and good, but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of her looks, age or social status, then you have definitely won at the wooing game.

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