Divorce and Children If you have children, and many couples divorcing do, it is important…
Now that you’ve decided that divorce is the best option for you and your spouse, it is likely that you want to find the most peaceful and effective way to get through the divorce. Divorce mediation is a good way to do this, but you will need to find a divorce attorney that you can trust in order to complete the process. Here are some of the main components of divorce mediation, as well as sources that will help you to find out more.
Divorce mediation helps you and your spouse to work out all the terms and issues that need to be addressed in order for the divorce to be over as soon as possible in a way that both parties can be content with. If you and your spouse decide to use divorce mediation, you should make sure that your lawyer is committed to making the things that you speak about with them confidential; this will make you more comfortable with the process, and will help you and your spouse figure out how you will be parents to your children after the divorce is final.
Divorce mediation that is effective also means that the mediator who is handling your case is not allowed to give advice to either party, or to ‘take sides.’ The mediator is only there to monitor the disagreements that you and your spouse will have, and to make sure that the fight stays ‘clean’ (i.e. no excessive yelling or physical violence). The mediator is also not allowed to serve as a lawyer for either party, since this would be a conflict of interest.
It is also important to realize that the divorce mediation will go on for as long as you want it to. As long as your spouse, you, and the mediator are willing to work through the issues of your divorce in a peaceful manner, this process can continue until the divorce is final. Divorce mediation may also help you to realize that you and your spouse may not be ready for a divorce. Perhaps a trial separation would be ideal for the two of you–you can still participate in the mediation process, and this structured form of ‘arguing’ may help you to better communicate with one another, which could save your marriage.
Even if you’ve made the final decision to divorce, and still want to keep the separation process as amicable as possible, divorce mediation is an effective tool. It will help you to logically figure out which parent is better equipped to care for the children on a regular basis, and will help the two of you to divide the assets and debt created in the marriage in a fair and diplomatic way. If you want to find a divorce mediator in your area, or need more legal services, you can visit www.divorceinfo.com for more information.