After the break-up, you may fear that you will be all alone for the rest…
There are many people who are living in a secret relationship. There could be different reasons they are keeping their relationship secret. If they are younger it may be because their parents do not approve or if they are older they may just not be sure of what they want. Whatever the reasons may be, there are some problems that can be caused by a secret relationship.
You have to consider that if you’re the closest people to you in your life do not approve, there may be a good reason why. If you are a teenager who is just trying to rebel, you may want to take a step back and see what it is that your parents do not like about this person. Your friends and parents are probably the closest people to you in your life. You are not going to be able to go to public events or any family functions.
If the reason is that you are just not sure how serious the relationship is and want to wait, it is fine to give it a bit more time. Also if you have a secret relationship, whether the person is a good or bad influence on you, you are not going to be able to go to family functions or work events. If you are, at some point you are going to need to make your relationship public. This can be extremely difficult and put a huge strain on your relationship.
Anyone who is in a secret relationship should really take time to consider why it is they are keeping it secret in the first place. First appearances can be deceiving and if this is the problem, you should introduce your partner to those who are most important in your life. Who knows, if the reason your relationship is secret is because you are afraid of what they will say then maybe after they get to know your partner better they will actually like them. You really never know until you try.
You are going to be a nervous wreck if you pursue a secret relationship for the long term. Just make sure that you are happy. You should be proud of the person you are with and the relationship you are in, and never feel ashamed as though you have to cover it up. No secret relationship can truly be successful because there will just be too many constraints and stressors.